What is Assertiveness?
It helps to be able ask for help when you want to get something done. You can request it, you can demand it, or you can sit back and hope that it happens. Requesting help is an example of assertion, or standing up for your own rights without violating the rights of others. Demanding help is aggression; you are standing up for your rights, but violating another's right to voluntary action. And being passive is submission, a failure to stand up for your own rights at all.
One of the keys to being assertive is learning how to communicate thoughts and feelings without jeopardizing yourself or others. This ability models for others and encourages them to act or react appropriately. It elevates interpersonal relationships and creates an atmosphere of respect and co-operation.
Assertiveness is speaking your mind and allowing others to do the same. Assertive people:
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say what they think, feel, and want. Assertive people understand that they have the right to express themselves.
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speak directly, honestly, and tactfully - without excuses, apologies, or " beating around the bush."
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respect others’ rights. An assertive person doesn’t try to eliminate or manipulate others.
Some Common Questions People Ask about Assertiveness
If I learn to be assertive will I get what I want?
Why should I change when what I am doing now works?
If being assertive is so great, then why don’t people do it more often?
Why should I be more assertive?